Now, here's something that hypnotherapists are asked to help with on a regular basis but do those people asking really understand what they are asking for. As an example I have often been asked to help people feel more confident in social situations. It's quite usual for these clients to tell me that they try very hard indeed to avoid social situations and yet they are also asking if I can make them feel confident in the situation. If you have already learnt to drive and have been doing so for some time answer this question. ' Did you feel confident whilst learning the skills that make you a safe driver or did you begin to feel confident once you were able to handle a car safely and able to drive easily '. My bet is that it was once you were able to do it easily. In my opinion confidence is an emotional state we experience after we have obtained a level of competence at carrying out certain tasks. Therefore working to help someone feel confident in any area of life involves working out and learning the skills involved in the task until we become competent which then leads to feeling confident. For example - social situations.

If we were to look at those people that we describe as being confident we need to look at how they stand, to listen to the tone and volume of their voice and how often they make eye contact with others. This is just a beginning. And then after relaxing comfortably we could imagine ourselves carrying out each one of these behaviours that we associate with being confident until they feel part of us. You can try this yourself but the results will be dramatically amplified whilst working with a competent hypnotherapist. Actually the most important thing that hypnotherapists do to help their clients experience more confidence is to move them mentally to a position in which the client whilst feeling the feelings and sensations known as lack of confidence to accept those feelings as being a useful thing, something to be embraced. Each and every time we make ourselves do something that scares us we our basically buying ourselves a little more of that highly sought after emotional state known as good self esteem.

Many therapists will tend to look to the past for the reasons as to why a person may have low self esteem or low self confidence and that's fine if you have a belief that it's the way to go forward. That makes me think of driving forwards in a car whilst constantly looking in the rear view mirror. Not a good idea. The thing with the past is that it is the past. Meaning that it isn't happening now. And each time we feed ourselves a story, a reason, an explanation as to why we are as we are, then we are basically doing the very thing that prevents us from changing. Our stories are the only thing that stops us from achieving something new. If you want to improve your self esteem make yourself do something difficult and follow through, do truly good things for others and then you will be earning self esteem. Working with clients using hypnosis and NLP I have helped people to achieve things that they never imagined possible for themselves. If you want to supercharge your thoughts and feelings contact me.